Who knew there was such a thing as a quarter life crisis? Turns out there is an actual term for those feelings that settle in the pit of your stomach when you finally get around to doing adult things. You know that your heart sunk a little bit when you realized that those bills arriving were addressed to you and not your parents. Or how about that time that you set up your 401 (k)? It totally knocked the wind out of you, right? Maybe it didn’t but it turns out that a lot of people between the ages of 20-30 feel this pressure to be an adult, and this is causing everyone to freak the fuck out!
Somewhere in between graduating from college and setting your priorities straight you may have slipped into a….DUN DUN DUN! Quarter Life Crisis!
I have a feeling that I am currently in the throes of my crisis. Some of the telltale signs that your expressing a quarter life crisis is:
1) Experiencing a lack of purpose in your life.
I am cant be the only that wakes up in the middle of the night after having a dream where I reenact Driving Miss Daisy with a cat as Morgan Freeman, and suddenly have no idea where I am. I do not mean literally, because obviously I am sleeping in my bed, but I mean figuratively on the road of life. After quitting my job as an investigator I have no idea what I am doing or where to go with my life.
2) Comparing yourself to others
Now I know that I am not the only one that does this. Sometimes it’s hard not to feel inadequate compared to your friends or acquaintances that just got a promotion, new job, engaged, or who appear to have their life together. Especially since we live in a world that is so connected to social media. We can’t help but be bombarded my pictures, posts, and snaps of only the best in someone’s life.
3) Everything appears to be too much to handle and you cant make a decision
There are so many tough decisions to be made when you are a grown up. Like, should you be responsible and set a bedtime or stay up all night watching Netflix and browsing Tumblr? Should you splurge on a great outfit or put money in a savings account in case of financial trouble? But more importantly you may have indecision about school programs or where you should live. It may accumulate in having indecision regarding your career or life choices.
There are definitely more signs that let you know that you may be in a quarter life rut, but mostly it is a feeling. It’s that feeling of having a want to do something more with your life but not knowing where to start. It’s the feeling that hits you in the morning when you wake up and you think, “Am I happy with myself and with my life?”
First things first, it’s okay to feel like this because truthfully most people do. Like, this thing wouldn’t have a term if most people where happy with their lives and knew exactly what they wanted to do. Contrary to popular belief you do not need to have all the answers. It can be hard living life without a road map but getting lost and exploring can be fun. Sometimes you start off thinking you should do one thing but realize that something else is more your style.
Secondly, take some time to unplug from the world! Put yourself first and realize that most people on social media only most the very best of their lives. Notice that you are valuable and amazing. Remember that you have things that are worth celebrating and never forget that you have worth. Sometimes we are too worried about other people and not worried about ourselves enough.
Lastly, kick it like Nike and do something! Just do it! Break the cycle of indecision by actually doing something. Explore and discover. Sometimes we get stuck with the “what if” or the “I don’t know” and never really try anything new. The first decisions are the hardest but set that bedtime, save that money, and pick that school program. Let us stop weighing ourselves down with inaction and kick it into gear.
So, even though we may be confused and unsure about life and it’s meaning, that is absolutely okay. We will get through this together!